One of the trickiest things about developing and sustaining solid, positive relationships with others is that it requires a meeting of minds....to meet halfway, to be on the same page....while at the same time juggling having absolutely no expectations of the other person. This appears to be one of the biggest contradictions (in my observation) of relationships in the 21st century.
How does one know when to try harder at developing new friendships or putting oneself out there several times over in the dating world? How do you know when you're trying too hard to make something happen vs. becoming complacent/expecting opportunities to just fall in your lap? What does that middle ground look like? Has this process of seeking, finding, and maintaining fulfilling connections with others in our lives become nothing more than a pipe dream or virtual crapshoot? How is it that as I'm getting "better" (at improving myself as a person), encouraging opportunities become fewer with outcomes less successful? Why do I feel more comfortable in my own skin, yet increasingly lonelier as I go from one disappointment after another and another?
It's so hard to know what to do about these things. I wish human beings could be more simple creatures sometimes, or at least more thoughtful and compassionate with one another. It would feel a whole lot less lonely out there in the world.
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Agree. If only everybody followed the simple, common sense mantra: Treat others the way you want to be treated.
Very simple to me. Not so much for others. Sure, it is much easier said than done, but overall I think I abide by this.
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